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Some important points about discipline that all families should note are: 1. Evaluating family rules and chores In some families, there are too many rigid rules, in others there are insufficient rules. It is good for parents to periodically evaluate their family rules, including those relating to chores. Questions that should be asked include: -Are [...]

Studies show that alcohol, especially binge drinking, is a major problem among teenagers. More than 75% of 12 year olds state they drink alcohol and some are drinking dangerously high levels of alcohol. Use of tobacco and illicit drugs has dropped a little but alcohol consumption has increased. This high level of alcohol drinking is [...]

A lot of anger is repressed, which is never constructive. It must eventually erupt in the form of aggression, disrupted relationships or psychosomatic illness. Many common psychosomatic illnesses are due to repressed anger and resentment. They include such conditions as high blood pressure, arteriosclerosis, heart disease, arthritis, chronic back pain, ulcers and tension headaches. The [...]

Anger and disagreement with God often follows hurts received from perceived or actual injustice. This is the root cause of many emotional problems. Dr William Backus helpfully refers to this: ‘It is not anger, depression, anxiety, or our past history – difficult and as ugly as that may be – nor sickness, accident, loss or [...]

Anger is the emotion of self-preservation: the preservation of self-worth, needs and convictions. There are a lot of angry people walking around. People who are angry with themselves, others or God. Is Anger a Sin? Anger in itself isn’t wrong; it’s a signal that something else is wrong. It’s not wrong when it’s defined as [...]

There are many reasons to get involved in a good church and experience the fellowship and support it offers. Powerful healing dynamics are present in a healthy Christian community in both the main church gathering and in home groups. This goes beyond what can be done in a therapy context. Get involved in a good church and [...]

When you’re dealing with grief, there can be blockages to the recovery process that need to be addressed in the journey towards healing. The main blockages are: – Resentment and bitterness – Anger against God – A refusal to come to terms with your feelings, especially if you’re strongly left-brain (logical) – Blocking feelings with [...]

‘Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called sons of God.’ (Matthew 5:9) Christians are called to be peacemakers. Peace means more than the absence of conflict but being at peace in every area of life – with God, self and others. Peacemaking involves facing and resolvng conflict. Peacekeeping, in contrast, is simply smoothing [...]

‘Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.’ (Matthew 5:3) ‘Poor in spirit’ means humility, absolutely and desparately poor, powerlessness, humiliation, brokenness, dependance, contentment, exalter of free grace, not insisting on personal rights, not seeking great things for self but accepting a despised place, prayerful, truly subject, willing to be [...]

A child’s position and gender in their family very much affects their personality and future relationships. This, together with the family context, family identity and sibling distinctiveness all can make members of a family very different to each other. This birth order of a child has to be carefully considered. Here are some guidelines: The [...]